Parenting

Technological Childhood syndrome

 

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Said the edited image from the era of technology

Last month was the month I finally faced a Minion.

Not having watched the movie (I was under the impression the movie would be called Minions) or having any idea what the creature was, I had planned on asking Aunt Google about it, incase I was ever questioned about it. One does need to be prepared and hold the answers to the most popular fads to be included as a primary minion in the elite club,  consisting of my daughter and her friends. Alas, I was ambushed before getting around to it.

The image above caught my eye; held the potential for a well thought out comment that could turn into an argument if I was lucky enough. *claps hands in glee

Yet the more I thought about the words to agree with this post, began to realise how I did not actually agree with it.

Technology may not have been as advanced in the 90’s as it is now, but there were enough era-acceptable technological devices around. Having grown up in a household that believed in not bringing such distractions into the house, I am unable to name even a few.

Whilst remembering rebelling against this rule as a child, I also remember the hours and days spent without the distractions and addictive joy the devices bring. Although being miffed about the television being out of bounds, the solace I received from my prized companions, books, could never be imitated.

A well known Islamic orator, Yasir Qadhi, claims that the duty of the parent is to do all that needs to be done to bring a child up in the right manner; he states that even if the child does go astray, most often in the adolescent stage, he/she would eventually revert to the norm known to him/her.

These words hold an abundance of wisdom as all the vicious promises I made to myself when furious about not being allowed to own the latest gadgets broke,as realisation of the benefits I reaped dawned upon me.

There is absolutely no question about the immense breakthroughs and ease of life with the advent of technology and the devices it provided; it would be illogical to state that technology is the root of today’s evil. Neither do I intend to nor do I claim that technology does not play any role in our lives; as quaint as the Amish principles may seem,even a day without WiFi is quite unimaginable (how would I scare myself with the answers the symptoms I input reveal?!).

I merely do not agree that technology is the reason that most children can no longer be called children, simply because their innocence and naturally joyous nature is snatched and replaced with monosyllable responding, device-addicted creatures.

It is entirely upon the parents to ensure the correct usage of technology to enhance but not replace their childhood. When the parents misuse the ease it provides and unknowingly  begin to use it to substitute for their presence and time, the wheels begin to roll downhill. No child cries without a reason; the child whom you claim does it, cries for attention- a normal part of growing up. When the attention and time children crave from their parents are quelled with tablets and other handheld devices, they learn to accept them and eventually, depend on them.

It it hilarious for a parent to blame a child for a device addiction when it was their slacking that brought about it. In today’s fast paced world, it is sometimes not possible for parents to be present around their growing children all the time, but the time that they do spend is the crucial point. Children rarely do as they are told; they do as they see. If what they see is your glazed over eyes as you stare at the screen and hear your half-hearted responses as you barely acknowledge their presence, that would be what you would see and hear, when you eventually put the phone down.

One could try to eliminate all form of technology and I commend them for it but I believe in taking the middle route; children need balance and need not become social pariahs simply to enjoy a natural childhood.

Intelligent use of technology at the advised ages and stages would do far more good than staying away from it; embrace the good and expel the harm.

I’m so thankful my children have a childhood, even while technology continues to swell around them.

 

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